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I’m so excited that Melissa at i swim for oceans likes discussion posts because sometimes I get chatty and have things to say. Melissa has opened her Let’s Talk event up to the rest of us and I’m excited to be a part of it. Thanks, Melissa!
According to Melissa:
“Let’s Talk will feature questions or prompts, which I will answer too. Love it or hate it, weigh in or don’t, it’s my hope that Let’s Talk will at least get you thinking…and maybe even get you discussing with the rest of us!”
Drama surrounding ARCs makes me tired. While I understand bloggers sometimes tweeting pictures to show ARCs that we are beyond excited about – sometimes – I don’t understand doing it every time. (I’m talking about being excessive.) And the behavior of book bloggers at events – grabbing the ARCs and such – oh my gracious, you guys. It’s rude and embarrassing. I love this hobby so much and I don’t receive all the ARCs in the world – it’s a privilege to get the ones I get. I don’t want to see everyone else being haughty, superior, and snobby about their loot, and neither do other smaller book bloggers or non-bloggers. It’s just bad manners.
It has to happen sometimes. But I think we’re held to a standard of being honest. I admit that I don’t have THAT many negative reviews because I’m ridiculously selective about what I choose to spend my time reading. But there are some bloggers who are just a little bit beyond what I would consider honest – I’ve seen reviews that I’m shocked, sickened, and embarrassed to read. Can you imagine being an author and reading a scathing review of your book, a book that you’d put your blood, sweat, tears, and resources into? It’s just not necessary, folks. We can be honest and still be kind. We can use our manners.
It is NOT necessary to get on Twitter and berate people. It is NOT necessary to get on Twitter and let the world know you just got an email you didn’t like. It is NOT necessary to make yourself look bad in this process – yet that is what happens. AND it causes drama by generating responses, most of them negative. It all falls under the “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” rule. Once again, it’s just basic manners. It leaves a bad taste in the mouths of some people. It is one thing to generate discussion, but bloggers do not have to call anyone out by being passive aggressive or pointing out blogs/other bloggers by using identifying information-other-than-their-name. I’ve seen it happen too many times. Bad manners and generally unkind.
All book bloggers love comments – the ones with the bigger blogs, those of us with the smaller blogs, and those of us just starting out. I’ll admit that it is almost impossible to comment back to everyone that stops by, but I think it is nice to notice people who make the effort to repeatedly read our thoughts and comment…and then try and return the favor. It’s not hard to make someone’s day. Even if it is a few days later, try to comment back when you can! Better yet, go visit other blogs and comment THERE.
And to go a step further, we can make our comments THOUGHTFUL. I *know* that my blog posts are longer than the books often are, but I am chatty. But the ones who are thoughtful in their comments ALWAYS make me smile and have often brightened my day when I needed it. It may sound a little corny, you guys, but sometimes it’s the small things in life that make a difference to people. Let’s be good commenters when we can. This is something we can ALL improve on, including myself.
If you read something that you like, you enjoy, or you find thought-provoking, share it with other people! That’s what those little buttons on the blog are for! Tweet it, post it to facebook, Pin it, whatever. You WILL make someone’s day with this and it is ALWAYS good to pay it forward. Share good stuff with the world.
I have learned so much from this community of book bloggers. I have improved my hobby, my skill, and the way I look at things. Be open to what other bloggers have to say and suggest. I can think of one blogger in particular that has kept me floating sometimes when I’ve been in over my head with tech stuff. (Looking at you, Jacinda!)